Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope everyone had a wonderful day and I hope you told all your loved ones just how much you love them. It seems that the WASPy of us aren’t as comfortable throwing the L word around. I know that for a long time I wasn’t all that comfortable with it. Then Momo was born and later I met CSP. And then I got sick and had to have all those surgeries. Now I don’t really care if you’re not comfortable with it, I’m telling you. If something happens to me I don’t want there to be any doubt in my loved ones’ minds that I love them. So friends- I love you! And I’m so glad to have you in my life! Family- I love you! I don’t know what I’d do without you. CSP- I love you! I’m so thrilled to be on this adoption journey with you. Ling Ling- I love you! And we’re coming to bring you home!
We’ll always have a connection in our hearts to China. They (the adoption program) dumped us, not the other way around, and we’ll always hold a special place in our hearts for China and children adopted from China. Not too long ago we were walking in to a store and we saw a Caucasian woman walking out with two Asian daughters.
Me: Did you see them?
Me: How long do you think it will be before we see them and, you know, not feel sad.
CSP: Never. We’ll always miss China.
This might not make sense to people who haven’t adopted, but when you make the decision to adopt you go in whole heart, usually after lots and lots of thought, soul searching and research. So of course it leaves a imprint of your heart when it’s over. We miss it. We miss what we’re missing out on. You know that saying “You don’t miss what you never had”? Not always true. So we still celebrate Chinese New Year. Gung Hay Fat Choy!
When I knew that CSP & I were serious, and that it was highly unlikely that our families would be merging into a big, loving Disney musical family, he & I sat down & discussed a holiday schedule. He’s the only child so if we aren’t with his parents on a holiday then they are all alone unless they make plans with other friends and/or family. Splitting the day is not an option for us as our families are all day celebrators and running between two houses while making sure each family gets good, quality time with us is not my idea of fun. We talked it over with both sets of parents and came up with a schedule that we’ve been following now since our first set of major holidays. It works for us and our parents. CSP’s parents know what to expect so they make plans ahead of time and it ensures that they are not alone on Christmas or Thanksgiving. One year they even went to NYC for Thanksgiving. Works out great. Our schedule is this: if my parents get us for Thanksgiving then they also get us for Christmas Eve and CSP’s parents get us for Christmas Day. The next year we alternate. New Years Eve & day are up for grabs, as are the other holidays throughout the year. CSP is a grocery store manager so he often has to work on Christmas Eve til 8pm (SUCKS! DON’T go to a grocery store on Christmas Eve! It gets later every year!), and every other year or so he’ll have to make a stop in at his store on Christmas Day. New Year’s Eve he’ll often have to work til 11pm and New Year’s Day & Thanksgiving are wide open. He might work at 6 am or til 11pm or even overnight. I loathe his job come holiday season. Although he does come home with funny stories, like the time this one elderly lady who always wore headphones to keep the government out of her head (her words) returned her egg nog because it didn’t taste right. That’s because it was half & half.
So…do you & your mate/partner/spouse/booty call have a schedule for spending time with your families around the holidays or do you just wing it?
Always planning ahead. Christmas cards are a big undertaking every year. I believe in hand written, hand addressed cards with personalized messages to my loved ones. This means starting early to get them out on time. And that means I need your help. When my Blackberry died I lost some addresses. And during the year people move. My address book needs updating. So, if you’d like to be on my Christmas card list, please shoot me an email at heyshanny at gmail dot com with your current address. You’ll get a fun Christmas card and a cute pic of the pugs. Plus a whole lotta Christmas spirit and cheer from me! And I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love fun mail!
Today I went down to Papa & Gigi’s to celebrate Father’s Day. Momo, Sara & the boys were there too. I gave Papa his annual photo book. This gift is always a hit and always brings a tear to his eye. He loved it. I make one every year on my Mac, compiling my favorite pics of the family over the previous year. We looked at the book and had lunch. Then Momo had to go to work.
The rest of us went to go visit Gmommy at the nursing home. Zoe came with and was a big hit again. Gmommy just loves her. Calls Zoe her baby. So sweet! Gmommy’s new boyfriend Jerome stopped by her room while we were there. It was very cute. Jerome liked Zoe too. At one point Jerome straightened his collar and announced “Well, if we’re going to be eating out tonight we’d better get going.” He took Gmommy by the hand and the took off for the dining area. So cute! It gave us an easy escape too! We time our visits with meal times so when we leave Gmommy won’t get upset. Well with Jerome hanging around now, she’s all smiles!
We all went back to Papa & Gigi’s for swimming until it was time to go home. We had a big time in the pool with Jacob & Joey. Too bad my camera’s not waterproof!