adoption, parenting

The Verdict

Thank you for all your input regarding blogging with kids.  I talked everything over with CSP & we’ve come to an agreement.  I had to compromise, but it’s a good thing.  Being married to CSP keeps me balanced.

  • Since we’re fostering to adopt I won’t blog about the children until the adoptions are final.  That is going to be so hard!
  • Once the adoption is final I’ll blog about the kidlets, but won’t use their real first names.  They’ll get nicknames.  I won’t blog any identifying details about our location, etc.  I mean, y’all know we live in Charlotte, and that’s as detailed as I’ll be getting.
  • After the adoption I’ll only post pictures of their faces on flickr under the privacy option of “viewable to friends and family only” as well as on Facebook.  This way CSP knows who will be able to see pics of the kids.
  • On my blog I’ll still be able to post pics, just no faces.

SO, if you want to see our little ones, you  need to be a friend or family.  Now, I do consider my bloggy friends real friends.  Some of you, like Lisanne, Jenny, etc. even though we’ve never met in real life I feel like I know you.  We’ve exchanged emails and regular mail and read each other’s blogs for years and years. I trust y’all plenty and feel very comfortable sharing our child’s pictures with you.  So if you’re a bloggy friend, but we’re not Facebook friends and you want to see my kids, then send me a friend request.  If I know you and feel comfortable then I’ll approve it.  Once our child comes home, which may be months and months before the adoption is final, I’ll be removing the Facebook link from my blog page.

These aren’t hard and fast rules.  CSP & I have never been parents.  I’ve never been a mommy blogger.  Things may change, but if anything, our children’s privacy will become even more protected.  I know I can password protect this blog, individual posts, but I know that passwords get passed around.  I won’t become some crazed, obsessive mom with spreadsheets trying to control who can and cannot read my blog.  Facebook & flickr offer an easier way to deal with the photo issue.  From there I have to trust my peeps.

5 thoughts on “The Verdict”

  1. sounds like a plan…I am very excited for you and CSP. Keep us updated how things progress with the classes, etc. *hugs*


  2. I so glad you consider me a peep – we WILL meet one day!

    I think you are taking wise steps. Every parent has to do what they feel comfortable with. We talk a lot at work about photo privacy for parents and kids online… there is a lot to it!


  3. Thanks for the mention! You are so sweet! 🙂 I’m really glad that you’ve come up with a compromise. Sounds good to me. It’s the first of MANY parenting decisions you will have to make! 🙂


  4. I don’t blog regularly….with5 children and homeschooling…I just don’t have time. I use to put the kids in my blog, even used their pictures…then, I got paranoid….so, now I don’t…’s a scary world out there…..
    I do like to tell cute stories and such….on FB, I do use their real names–as only my friends see that….however, everywhere else–I only refer to DS (dear son) DD (dear daughter) or DC (dear child/children)…..having adopted 4 of my 5 children, adoption is close to my heart…..and am always interested in other people’s adoption journey….keep us posted….praying for you, your husband and your future little CSP’s!


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