Lots to talk about today people, so settle in and get comfy.
Ok, first off I’m scared. I’m getting older and that means my family is too. But you know how some people, especially the ones you don’t see every day, how they kind of stay the same age in your head? Then you see them at a wedding or something and all of the sudden the cousin you used to babysit has chest hair & a tattoo? Well, my aunts and uncles are getting old and sick and I don’t like it one bit. I told y’all about my Aunt L who was diagnosed with Leukemia a few months ago. She’s having to move across the state to be near a specialty hospital so she can get a bone marrow transplant. And then Sunday I found out that one of my favorite uncles, one of my favorite people period, has 3 tumors on his brain. They just found out over the weekend. We’re now waiting for test results. I called my mom in tears and she told me that once people hit 50 diseases can take over and that I should start to expect to lose some of my loved ones. Thanks for cheering me up Mom!
Last night I made a trip to the mega craft store and loaded up on supplies for my return to the cake decorating world. In 1999 I took the Wilton Course 1 & did pretty well. I remember making one basket weave cake with red roses all on top that was pretty kick ass. I’m going to make a practice cake this week so I’ll post pictures.
Also, something happened at Jake’s birthday that’s got my panties in a wad. I was chatting it up with some party goers when one of them who we’ll be referring to as MF (no, not for mothaf***er, but for Mutual Friend) said to me “So I hear….” and she repeated something I had told Hair Girl in confidence. My hair girl is a friend I met through other friends. We’re casual friends and I adore her, but we don’t spend hours on the phone sharing deep dark secrets. BUT when I’m getting my hair done we do talk. I’m usually there for like 3 hours so we talk a lot. And HG had promised me on more than 1 occasion that anything I told her would be kept strictly confidential. The way it should be! Well, Mutual Friend’s husband walks up and says “Oh yeah, don’t tell HG anything you don’t want MF to know!” The secret isn’t that big of a deal, but it has to do with our adoption and it was something we’ve only told our families and closest of friends. And now the whole neighborhood knows. This led to numerous follow up conversations where I had to explain myself unnecessarily. If HG had just kept her mouth shut I wouldn’t have been put in the position to give out information we weren’t ready to.
So now what? Do I call HG and confront her? Do I just quit going to her? She does a great job on my hair at half the price of salons. Or do I continue to go to her and just keep my mouth shut? I feel like she needs to know if she promises to keep something to herself then she damn well better keep it to herself! But I hate confrontations and I don’t want it to be all awkward at the next get together where I see her. But she broke my confidence, put me in an uncomfortable situation and that’s a big deal to me. Arrgghh!! Help!!!
Bless Your Heart 
9 responses to “Meanwhile, on the other side of the world”
Is MF the loud drunk drink spiller. I didn’t like her much! I would still go to hair girl, but in passing say something to her about breaking promises, I would also keep my mouth shut while I am there!
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keep going to her… but just remind her that anything you tell her is hush hush… and tell her if she blows it again you will find someone else to do you hair… but say that part once she is done so you don’t look like a clown lol…
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Oooh, I truly believe that the only well kept secret is the one you don’t tell. As in, anybody. I have secrets even I don’t know about.
You seem like you have the sort of personality where you can jokingly say somthing like, “I’m not telling you, you’ll gonna blab it,” except mean it.
I’m sorry about your family. We’ve been going through that ourselves and the sad thing is that we’re not as close to the next generation so ties are really being lost.
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Hmmm…keep the hair girl…but not for secrets. Don’t rag on her too much about the blabbing either or you may need a rag about your head when you leave ;0)
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About the cake decorating … yay! :) It’s *so* much fun to decorate cakes. My mom and I had a *blast* doing Lucas’s “Lightning McQueen” cake for his birthday party! For Easter, I’m planning on making Martha Stewart’s lemon curd cake ~ wish me luck! I bought a new cake decorating set the other day (because I had unfortunately lost bits and pieces of my other one). This one is much nicer, too! I also bought some edible glitter to use on top of the cake. I absolutely can’t *wait* to put it together! Mmm! :) I look forward to seeing pictures of the cakes that you’ll put together!
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I am so sorry to hear about family members. I hope they will get well. You were so on the nail when you wrote that in your mind family members are always a certain age. Heck sometimes I still think my grandma is alive and well in California. As for your hairdresser keep going to get your hair done, since you like how she does it, but don’t tell her anything.
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I would keep going to her. I wouldn’t say something in jest. To me that’s the cowards way out. If you have something to say, say it, don’t try to say it in a joking way. If you don’t like confrontation then don’t say anything to her about it. I just wouldn’t tell her anything that I didn’t want everyone else in the country to know about. Since I don’t know HG I’m totally talking out of my ass but more than likely she just didn’t realize this was something to be kept hush hush and that’s why she blabbed. She’s probably just excited for you about the adoption and wants to share any news she hears.
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I would keep HG and keep my mouth shut until the next time she goes, “Hey, whatever happened with X,Y,Z?” Then I would casually go, “I would really love to tell you about X,Y,Z, but you have already spilled my secrets and the risk’s too high. I am sure you understand.”
Let’s just hope she doesn’t get miffed and leave your foils on too long.
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I TOLD YOU, YOU NEED TO TELL HER TO REPECT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE TAKING HER INTO YOUR CONFIDENCE EVERY TIME YOU TELL HER PRIVATE THINGS!! MAINLY BECAUSE SOME OF HER FRIENDS ARE NOT A FRIEND TO YOU, ETC. SETTING HER STRAIGHT DOES NOT MEAN CUTTING HER LOOSE!
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