Friday morning I went to my regular doctor because I can’t seem to shake this coughing/sneezing/can’t breathe thing, then hit Target to get my prescriptions. Then I had to go for my anesthesiology pre-op appointment. On the phone they told me to bring my cpap machine, which I did, which they didn’t need. I was at the hospital from 1-4 (!!) getting poked and prodded, but mostly just waiting around. Since I’m having a hysterectomy there are lots of baby related questions. While there one nurse and I got into a little conversation where she was asking me did we try IVF. I explained that while IVF was an option for us we skipped it and went straight for adoption because it was more important to me to be a mom than to be pregnant. She then said “I don’t know. I guess I’d have to try IVF a few times just so I could feel like I tried everything I could to have kids of my own before I gave up and adopted. But I’m really for adoption. So many kids needs homes ya know?” Then she was gone. And I was sitting there stunned. I wish I could have a big conference and tell people that adoption is NOT what you resort to when you’ve given up. That it’s just as wonderful as birthing babies. That the children ARE your own. I hate it when I get that pity look from women. The look that says “Aw you poor thing you can’t have kids.” I can so. And I will. And they are gonna kick ass.
I got home and went next door to Candice’s for movie night. But we ended up chatting so long over dinner that it got too late for movies. And sometimes that’s better than movie night anyway.
Saturday was a blur of cough medicine and naps and pre-op discussions with CSP. Bless his heart, I love him so. He’s so worried. He wants to drag our bed downstairs so I won’t have to climb stairs. He’s basically setting up a triage unit in our den. I hope he doesn’t stroke out in the waiting room. Anyone wanna come to Charlotte to slip CSP valium while I’m under the knife?
Bless Your Heart
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7 responses to “T minus…”
I truly love when others offer their “expert” opinions on our lives. REALLY. You are making the decision that is right for YOU and, frankly, have admirable thoughts on motherhood. :)
Hugs,
Rachael
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Dude. I so hear you. I probably would have been chasing her down. Guess with your current shortness of breath, etc that might have been tough.
It freaks people out that this is my FIRST choice. Always was.
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Exactly you are doing what is best for you.
What did the doctors have to say about the shortness
of breath? Are they worried about you being sick before surgery?
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You have such a sweet hubby. And I can’t believe that nurse would say such a thing…guess she didn’t think before she opened her mouth. {{HUGS}}
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ooo Id not have been able to hold my tounge. Id have told her off.. and then blamed it on the cough meds! :)
Your kids ARE going to kick ass. Red, yellow, black or white, they will be sweet babies and I cant wait to send them goodies from SC!
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Before we had Lore and we were told we couldn’t have kids without lots of drugs people got all in our face too about our choice… we just weren’t going to have kids… period… and everyone was like just try the drugs, etc… but with my weight and PCOS that is just nuts in my eyes… I swear people are just so bossy and nosey now a days… and your kids are going to be awesome… I would of kicked that nurse!
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I don’t know how you didn’t smack that nurse upside the head. Family is family, no matter how the child comes into your life. Some people can be so insensitive.
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