I went for my second opinion on Friday in regards to a possible hysterectomy. A week & 1/2 before I went I sent over my records & told them while scheduling the appointment that it was a surgical consult for a possible hysterectomy. I wanted my doctor to be prepared. Jon went with me (to help me undress if necessary, you know, the whole couldn’t use my left arm thing). Dr. came in and we started disscussing my situation. I started out by stating that even though I’m young and childless I’m perfectly ok with not being able to get pregnant. Dr. then told me that she hadn’t read my chart and knew nothing about my dilemma. Nice. So we started from scratch and I went through the whole thing. She told me I was a good candidate for a hysterectomy and that while usually the IUD is a good option, that since drugs haven’t worked for me in the past that the best bet would be just to skip right to the surgery. I asked could she do the surgery. Then she offered these pearls:
Oh I don’t do that kind of surgery. And even if I did I don’t like to just meet someone and operate right away. I like to develop a relationship.
Ok, look that’s great. But can we not fast track our “friendship” and skip the sleepovers and coffee dates and get right to the uterus removal??
Then:
What you need to do is find yourself the best surgeon who specializes in laproscopic hysterectomies and you’ll be all set.
Great. Cause that’s how they are listed in the phone book. Suck ass doctors on pages 1-22 and Surgeons Who Won’t Kill You on pages 23-50. I asked how was a regular person supposed to know that and she said she’d find some doctors for me.
Oh, and don’t let me forget this one:
Well, since you don’t want children of your own, I’d go ahead with the hysterectomy.
Nah, who wants kids of their own? I’m all about the rental children. You know, the ones we can send back when they need braces or fail to secure a decent scholarship.
I obviously won’t be using her services again. Another $40 wasted on a ridiculous conversation, no exam, and useless tears while I bleed through my clothes onto the exam table.
So yesterday the referred doctor’s office (located downtown at least 30 minutes away) called at 1pm. “We can see you at 1:30 or in May. But not before you get your records sent over.” Some people go postal when they snap. I’m going to go all uterine on somebody’s punk ass toot suite if someone doesn’t help me soon.
Bless Your Heart 
10 responses to “Going uterine”
Oh Shannon I am so sorry. It really doesn’t matter how much of an education someone has, as you know they can be so stupid. I wish you like in finding a competent doctor soon who will help you. It can happen. Fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you!
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Oh Shanny, what is wrong with retarded doctors these days???? I swear they wait to see if you’ll die first before they will do something. You poor thing. although, I would like to watch you go “uterine” on their asses!!! hang in there hon, you are a tough cookie. You’re going to make an awesome mom to all those “rental” chilren!! : )
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omg… first… report these stupid docs to the review board… there is no need for this crap… 2nd… see if there is a early menaspoal (i know misspelled lol) support group… these women will know the bad docs from the good and they might even be able to tell who would be awesome for doing this surgery…
But my mom suggested to me (after i had lore and had massive bleeding) to look for a medical supply place and get something called chucks… they have a pad side and a plastic side… they used those on me in the hospital instead of a pad… and they are huge… so when you are at home you can stick on in the undies (it won’t be flatering at all lol) but it stopped me from bleeding over everything…
hugs hun… things will get better…
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What up? You have been having some seriously lousy luck in the health care department. Keep up the search. There are decisive, caring, intelligent docs out there who WILL help you. If I knew of anyone in your area I’d certainly let you know but being many miles away doesn’t help that situation.
Not in agreement or disagreement, I think you know where I stand, but the reason some docs are more hesitant to act was because there was a long history of people suing because the doc ‘did too much’ and now people are angry when ‘it’s not enough’. None too easy for those of us in the shoes of keeping people healthy. Right this very minute there is another blog with concerns that the doc wants to do ‘too much’. Providers can be screwed no matter what they do.
That said, you have done a great job of collecting your info ahead of time (sorry that ball was dropped). You seem clear-cut and the answers are not difficult in your case. I wish you the best.
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I agree with Connie, some doctors’ hesitance is due to the litigious society we now live in. OB/GYNs now carry the highest malpractice rates (it used to be anesthesiologists), so the reluctance to perform a non-reversible procedure on a younger patient has become the norm, unfortunately. Don’t give up…get a third, fourth, fifth opinion if necessary. Check to see if you can find a review of the “100 best doctors” or whatever in your region. I know an annual list is posted in the “Washingtonian” for my area. There’s got to be one for you, too.
I’m so sorry this has become so difficult. I’ll echo what the others have said…hang in there! {{HUGS}}
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these people suck. Seriously suck. :(
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I’m sorry you are having so much trouble finding a good doc.
I am in LOVE with my OBGYN – she is the best, and having my hysterectomy was one of the best things I ever did.
Good luck.
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Shanny,
If you want to come to Atlanta I have the BEST gynecologist in the world. He is a compassinate and caring man. Plus, his wife couldn’t have children (ironic for an OB/GYN doc) and they have 2 adopted girls that are beautiful. Just gives him an extra plus in my book.
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This is too lame for words! You know, you should both go back to your main doc and demand the hyster. After all, it’s your body, and your choice. I know it’s tough to stand up for yourself when you are in such a condition (been through enough bad docs to know what it’s like), but eventually you really do have to just demand what you want. It sounds like at least your original gyno knows your history and such. Be bold, and don’t settle for anything less than what you know would help you.
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I’m sorry you have to go through this. Hopefully, you will find someone wonderful soon!
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