Extraordinary
My little sister Morgan asked me how to flirt while we were having dinner last night. She thinks she has to come up with some cool moves because she doesn’t think she’s pretty enough. For those of you who haven’t met her- she’s 13, 5 feet 10 inches tall, model thin, with a beautiful face and thick gorgeous hair. I coached Morgan on stroking, not poking questions (a tip I learned from the Date Patrol).
Coincidentally a coworker had just told me about some good looking guy she saw at the grocery store but was too shy to talk to. Maybe it’s because I’m older, maybe it’s because I’m married- but I’m over the whole too shy thing. I told my coworker, let’s call her Jen, that she should have thrown her muffins in his buggy. Jen is the type of girl who constantly puts herself down and believes she’s not pretty enough too.
But the most important thing (I think) I told both of them was that they have to know that they are delightful, and wonderful, and beautiful before anyone else will. I’ve been telling people what a delight I am for years! I used to work with a girl who had a similar attitude and when we’d go out we were the double delight. And if you’re telling people you’re delightful and they feel you are too, then you feel delightful almost by default. I’m happy 99.99% of the time, I know I’m fun to be around, and I try to make other people feel good too. Plus, I don’t really care what other people think of me. I don’t embarrass easily and I’m the first to laugh at myself. Everyone loves humor. I think all those things make me approachable. I know I’m not a classic beauty, I’m no Claudia Schiffer, but I’ve rarely been without a date when I needed one, and now I’m married to a fabulous, wonderful, (and really hunky) man. And I think it’s all mainly because of my “delight”-full philosophy. I don’t buy into the whole “change yourself for a man” or “I’m not pretty enough for him” kind of thinking. I like the way Liz Phair puts it “Have you ever thought it’s you that’s boring? Who the hell are you? I am extraordinary If you’d ever get to know me” . I know she goes on to talk about being a psycho in the song, but let’s not dwell on that! =)
So that’s the end of today’s little psycho babble pep talk. I say, the next time you see a cute guy at the grocery store- don’t forget to throw your muffins in his buggy!
Bless Your Heart 