Bless Your Heart

wedding drama

are you ready for a peek into my dysfunctional family life? here we go… this may be a wee bit long but it will certainly be entertaining! 1st a little background: my parents divorced when i was very small. my father, who we’ll refer to from here on out as BL for big loser, is an alcoholic, drug using, abusive, lying, cheating, no steady job holding mess of a man. his parents are swimming in denial about his behavior which has made it difficult for my sister and i to maintain a relationship with them, but we’ve done it. they blame my mother for breaking his heart and causing all of his problems. ok, so that’s the background.

fast forward 20 years to my cousin’s wedding in may of 2000. bl is there, he gets all drunk, causes a scene or 12. my grandparents blame my cousin and her husband for his behavior because “how dare they have a bar knowing he has a sickness”. like it’s their fault and they should alter their lives because of his problems. now, jump up a year to my wedding. he’s not invited. drama ensues. my grandma and my aunt (his sister) boycott my wedding because i won’t let bl “take his proper place walking me down the aisle”. my mom did a terrific job walking me down and i can’t imagine not having her do it. there were many long distance arguements over the phone etc. but i stood my ground. my wedding was beautiful and i wouldn’t change a thing.

now here we are a week away from my sister’s wedding. my uncle called sara yesterday to ask her about bl’s invite status. he said my grandma asked him if he could sneak bl into the back of the church. and “don’t worry, he wouldn’t go to the reception. i’d drive him straight home.” which would mean that our uncle & his family, who’s awesome, would miss the reception. and the point is, she doesn’t want him there- that’s why he did not receive an invite. i just can’t believe that my grandma would be so devious as to ask an uncle to sneak bl in! how 3rd grade is that? and come on, if he really feels like he should be there than why doesn’t bl just call himself and be a man about it? the whole thing also implies that sara really wants him there but for some reason she felt like she couldn’t invite him. i just feel badly for my sister. i was hoping that because i stood my ground that they’d give up and she wouldn’t have to go through the same stress of it all that i did. like she doesn’t have enough to think about to get ready for the wedding! so cross your fingers that this doesn’t turn into a very special episode of jerry springer! =)