Periodically people ask about how our adoption is going. Yep, we’re still at it! We still submit profiles of children to our social worker every couple of weeks and she submits our home study to their social worker. But we haven’t been matched yet. This is really frustrating for us. We feel like we are a perfect match for these kids but who knows what’s keeping us from being matched. One thing that breaks my heart is that when I’m browsing the profiles and find one that says they prefer to have a home with a single mother. What has happened to that poor child that they DON’T want a father?? We can only imagine.
We’re still having quarterly visits with our social worker. And we’re keeping our home study current. In fact, we have CPR coming up again soon. So please keep us in your prayers. We’re still chugging along, hoping and praying that someday soon we will finally complete our little family.
Don’t get all excited folks, there’s no breaking news. I just wanted to let you all know where we stand right now with the adoption.
We are still approved for adoption by the state of NC. Each month I log on to the websites with photo listings of available children (like http://www.adoptuskids.org) and browse the children listed. Then I choose some kids who would fit with our family and submit their profiles to our social worker so she can submit our home study to the children’s social workers. Then we wait for the children’s social workers to approve us or not. We don’t hear if we are not approved. It’s a long process. It’s frustrating too because from month to month I see kids on the sites that we’ve submitted for. While we wait we go to continuing education classes to keep our foster care license current. Then we start all over the next month.
Here’s what will happen when we are finally approved: we will start visitation with the child(ren). Their social worker will determine how many visits we’ll need to complete. Then, once everyone is comfortable with each other we will be able to bring them home! 6 months or so later the adoption will be final.
So that’s it. That’s what’s going on with us and our never-ending adoption story!
As you know we submitted our home study for 3 little girls at the end of December. At this time we have not heard back about any of them. A dear friend of ours who’s been through this process said that this could happen. I just did an online search and one of them (the one with THAT name), is now on hold. Since no one has contacted us, I’m most likely correct in assuming she’s not on hold for us. So it’s back to the search I go. I just sent our social worker profiles on 4 little girls. She will submit our home study for them next week and we’ll start the waiting game again!
I’m so excited to tell you that I’ve found 3 little girls that we’ve submitted our home study for! I combed the websites looking for a sibling group of 2 girls, or a boy and a girl but no such luck. But I did find 3 single girls. One is in the south. Not sure of exact age. One is in Mid West, she’s 9. She’s super cute. Then the last one is 8 in the NorthEast. As soon as I saw her and read her profile I felt an immediate connection.
So I emailed our social worker and gave her the links to the girls and asked for her to submit our home study to those girls’ social workers. Not sure how long it will take from here. We have to be approved by the girls’ social worker, then we’d start the visits. The number of visits to be determined by the girls’ soc worker. CSP is ALL about having an only child. So this could be one of those things like they say “You make plans and God laughs”. We could end up with just one after all! We can’t have more than 1 at the same time unless they are siblings. So if one comes home then we’d have to wait a year and start the process over again. That’s something I don’t think CSP would be too keen on doing. I barely got him through the process this time around!
So fingers crossed we will hear something soon from our social worker!!! SO excited! I’m obsessed!
We are all finished with our adoption work! No more paperwork. No more deadlines. No more inspections and scrutiny. No more digging for records. WHEW. We’ve been working on this for so long I almost don’t know what to do with myself now! Well, yes I do. That would be prepare for the arrival of the kidlets!!! We’re asking for 2 girls ages 0-8. We are so excited! We’re hoping to have them home by summer. All depends on how many children are available. We could be parents in a month or a year. It’s finally feeling so real! We’ve been “that couple who’s adopting” for SO long, and soon we’ll be “that couple who adopted those beautiful children”. Squeeee!!!
CSP & I have been doing a lot of thinking and we’ve come to a decision. It pains me to say this but we won’t be posting any pictures of our kids on Facebook. We have some friends who’ve gone the same route we are traveling to adopt their kids and they’ve had to remove all the pics and info of their kids from all social media. Some of the bio family hunted them down post adoption. We don’t want to end up in a similar situation. So we’ve decided to not publish their little faces or names on the interwebs. This is hard for me as I use the internet and social media to keep in touch with so many friends and family. But this is the right choice to protect our kids. Instead of using social media to update friends and family on our kidlets’ adventures we will be relying on good old fashioned email. Please send me your email even if you think I don’t have it if you’d like to be included in email updates.